Love and it's Fluidity

So I have been playing around with the idea that love is a fluid emotion. It's something that I think a lot of times we do not fully understand the fluidity of love, we are expecting the love in our relationships to be solid and the basis of all else. This is really not the case...we need to change our mindsets and notice how this changes things based on just that.

Love does not keep us from being lonely...long distance love can sometimes still be lonely. Love does not make work any easier...though it is nice to have someone to vent to about work, or not discuss work with at all. Love does not help the bills get paid when the budget doesn't quite work out. Love can be fun when it is not abused or expected to meet the needs of some other emotion or requirement.

A stable and healthy relationship is based on truth and honest. A stable and healthy relationship is one in which we are able to recognize our partners flaws and we are able to work together on creating a relationship that solidifies our love.

We are capable of creating a place for our love to be grown....we must provide ourselves with those chances. We must allow our minds the chance to process what our hearts, wallets, and bodies are feeling. We have to create a relationship that will be to love like dark, wet places to bacteria.

We have to find someone who has a spirit of creativity, compassion and desire that will work cohesively with our spirit, creative minds, and desires. Once we stop looking at the superficial and begin to examine the true heart of a person we will be able to build an openness with someone that would be conducive to love.

I have realized now that even if I don't find love that's okay. I may be alone for the rest of my life, but I won't be lonely because I will find companionship someplace else. I'd be fine in a happy loving, marriage even if it's not with "the greatest love ever" I will be with someone who is stable and real and we enjoy each other....the key to finding love is to find happiness.

Boys, Boys, Boys

So, there are too many things going on these days, but guys can't seem to get it handled.

There is this guy that keeps coming across to me as slimy. I have known this guy for what seems like ages, but the slime is just starting to ooze from places it never oozed from before. Is it possible that I just never noticed before?

I know sometimes as women we try to pretend like we don't know certain things are happening in relationships. Is this also the case for platonic friendships? I'm trying to let this guy go because he doesn't understand why this slime that he is giving off is repulsing.

He does things like invite people out and not pay the bill, change plans at the last minute, and hate on the other people involved in his friend's life. These qualities make me wonder should I surround myself by someone that I do not feel would make ANYONE a good life partner?

NO, we should only allow ourselves to be around people that have good qualities. I realize there are people who are around us that we not exactly attracted to;do not have a good chemistry with--those are not the people we should avoid. If someone does not have basic human decency qualities, then we should not continue to allow them to hang around us--even in friendship.

When do guys turn into Men? Or does this guy continue to act the way he would have in high school because we were friends even then. I'm not really sure how I feel about this entire situation, I just kind of realized that he's not worth hanging out with. We can't do anything without me having to ask him to be a gentleman in the situation. If I treated him the way he treats me--he wouldn't want to be my friend either.

That's enough of a reason to not be friendly about anything. I'm not angry at what has happened, as I realize the reason he has continued in such a manner is because I have not required better. Maybe he will realize that he needs to do better with the next friend, but this is not being done as a punishment but to protect myself from the embarrassment that I feel by being associated with someone like him.

The friendship was good while it lasted, but now it's over. The more I look around the more I realize, that I'm cutting people off. Maybe it's just temporary and I have deal with my own issues. Who knows....